I just met a lovely lady who told me this from Frank Anderson of internal family systems. As best as I remember it it goes something like this. Trauma blocks love and connection and love and connection heals trauma.
I was just in a group that combined T group with internal family systems. The minute I was asked to tune in to a part that was alive tears started rolling down my eyes. The beautiful energies of the eclipse combined with how the mystery has presented circumstances has allowed me to get in touch with a part I exiled about 50 years ago. I realize my Catholic upbringing has me believing that if I don’t love everybody all the time I will burn in hell. Private Catholic school programed me to believe that Hell is very hot and eternity is very long. Truly astonishing to witness how this buried exile of this part has created so much pressure in this life. How much I would judge and hate myself anytime I couldn’t remain open hearted, kind, loving. Play very much in progress to integrate this previously shunned part.
Later: a friend just asked me how I did through the eclipse. Pretty graceful. I woke up before five but was able to go back to sleep in minutes after reading three passages that directly guided me in a deep question I’ve been asking. Yet for me what I just realized is a fairly significant difference in the group I just participated in. Normally when I have deep core material coming up, I don’t have much space to be relational. But in this case with a woman I just met when she shared her sorrow, I felt completely unified in holding our two sorrows together. It felt like holding her somehow left mine easier to be with. And then later when a man was in a very powerful place I spontaneously opened up to a wider field. I felt like I was holding him in the unified field with my eyes closed and it all happened incredibly organically. I felt Completely neutral about the material he was sharing. There was zero reactivity in the body. I could notice how both of these encounters were different from how I might’ve shown up just yesterday.
