just lay in your hammock

For years this one agonized over her co-dependency and slaved away to get free. Inadvertently that came with a ton of guilt and self blame that I seemingly could not get free. I literally just read this statement that sums up what I now know. Apparently I could have saved myself the trouble of WORKING on it. Spiritual practices so often lead to tons of guilt and blame. Let’s save ourselves the trouble, lay in a hammock and eat peeled grapes. I know this probably won’t make any sense, in fact it is nonsense. And yet perhaps every step had to be taken to see the nonsense.

“Attachments and expectations around love, as caring and
romantic and fulfilling and satisfying of deep needs, are
often more deeply held even than attachments to physical
things. And so many spiritual traditions and teachers
emphasize non-attachment to others as a spiritual practice, to the point of actively disrupting and negating loving
relationships. But truly, the whole emphasis on getting rid
of attachments turns out to be misplaced. It’s the prescriptive/descriptive fallacy again. Once there is seeing the
true nature of things as they are, all things are seen to
be elements in the dream and therefore untrue, not necessary, unimportant; and they simply loose their ‘hook.’ Any
attachment to them spontaneously evaporates.” David Carse

“The difficulty with most systems of ‘working on yourself,
therapy, self-help and analysis is that they become tools
with which to judge ourselves.” David Carse F-ing A yea! Screw that!

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